Well for over a year I've been going through some really tough stuff with my husband. First of all let me back track some, we have been together since I was 15, which is 23 years. Well in 2001 he got in some serious trouble and went to federal prison in 2002. We got married a few months before he went away. I stood by his side and made the 2 1/2 hour trip (one way) to visit him. He sent me and the kids the best cards and I got the best love letters. I really fell deeper in love with him. He was incarcerated for 6 years and I was faithful and I was there for him. He got released in May of 2007 and everything was wonderful up until the end of Sept. He started going and staying out. Never spending time with me and our daughter.(My son lives on his own with his GF and their daughter) Then I started hearing all kinds of rumors about him and this girl. She is not a good girl, to be blunt she is a crack whore, has no teeth, holes in her face from picking her face (crack addicts do that), lost custody of her kids, never has had a job. You get the picture. He has known her all his life, he grew up with the family. For a year I was going crazy from all the rumors and him telling me its not true. I've been through counseling and I'm on mediicine. Well almost 5 months ago he left me. He said he was tired of hurting me and he loved me too much to keep doing it. I've been so hopeful that we would get back together. Then the other night I just felt like something isn't right, if he loves me so much, why doesn't he act like he misses me. So I called him and kept pushing him and finally he admitted a had "some feelings' for her. That about killed me right there. Well last night an old friend called me and my husband is really good friends with her husband. Apparently all the rumors I've heard and didn't want to believe are true. He has been lying to me for over a year, how can someone be that cruel. I called him up and he finally came clean. They have even been intimate and that totally makes me sick, physically sick thinking about it. He is waiting for her to get out of jail and yes she is that type of girl. How can you love someone for that long and then poof your in love with a skank. He is almost 41 years old and she is 26, that is just sick. Our son is 20. I totally don't understand and I literally feel like I am going to die from the pain. He says hes sorry and he don't know what happened. That doesn't help at all. Our daughter who is 16 has been done with him for quite someitme now and our son finally called him last night and told him to stay away from all of us. My husband called me last night and asked me not to turn the kids against hm, I didn't , he did. He lied to them to, and I am the one who raised them, not him. Of course they can't stand to see me like. I really just don't know how I am going to go on. I couldn't sleep last night and all I am doing is crying. I have this huge pain in the middle of my chest and my heart is breaking. I am so thankful my daughter is her for me. She slept with me last night. But I am a really good person and I don't deserve this. I asked him what ws wrong with me and he said nothing, Your perfect. How can he walk out on 23 years, especially after I was there for him when he was going through his bad time.
I would really love some advice, especially from someone who has gone through something similiar. I am so lost.
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